I'll assume that your husband has the normal high IQ common amongst folks with AS, and if so you can use that to your benefit to help him learn how to relate to you and "behave" in a more neuro-typical way.No one with AS wants conflict or strife, as it only serves to worsen the anxiety and depression that is so common in this disorder.Was it my imagination that he’d refused to discuss things after we broke up? Even when he knew that the jig was up, he still tried to keep up the story for a while longer!When we did eventually bump into each other at another party, he was distinctly uncomfortable with reality catching up with him, especially when I made it more than clear to everyone who asked that I’d been living in London the entire time.
BOTH people in the relationship need to be willing to understand and adapt to each other's outlook.• Anonymous said… It also means being willings to understand what each person needs. This is not about right or wrong...differences ...what you can live with and what you can't.• Anonymous said…This comment wouldn't bother you or even spew out your mouth or even come as a thought in your head... Everyone's wired differently and marriage is a journey, a struggle and hard work but also a fantastic experience.The key is two people who want to keep trying.• Anonymous said… It's easy for people to say "everyone is wired differently" but let's be honest - that puts the burden on the non-aspie partner to figure out how to deal because the aspie really cannot contribute to resolving the language barrier that happens in this situation.My partner has aspergers and honestly its not much of a relationship. Several years ago I bumped into an acquaintance who I basically knew via my ex.
There is a moment or even sometimes a lengthier time than that, where when someone tells a lie about your relationship or outright fabricates a chain of events, you have to pinch yourself and check that what they say happened isn’t true.